I feel anchored, rooted and yet, curiously, free. Marriage is liberating. I've got a great circle of friends and family, I've gained a masters and a PhD, I've lived and travelled abroad and had some amazing adventures, I've survived illness, I'm in a career I love... and yet searching for and keeping a mate has taken up far too much headspace than it deserves down the years. I know my marriage will have its downs as well as its ups, but this level of commitment means I can now focus much more on the world around me and in turn enjoy that world with M beside me. The ultimate amazing thing? I get to spend my time with my best friend, forever.
I've been married for less than two months, so obviously I have alot of insight into this marriage malarkey (not)! However, I've discovered a few things on this short ride thus far...
Planethalder's simple rules of marriage:
- Don't let yourself go
- Remember to say please and thank you
- Snog, alot
- Be each other's best friend
- Continue to date
- Continue to explore
- Laugh, alot
- Don't get lost in the insular world of "we"
- Give each other space
- Respect each other's unknown spaces